In A Time Of Trial: An Open Letter To A Colleague And Friend

The State of Progress Vacuum

Sometimes life can throw us into a very high point of life and sometimes send us down to a very low point. During the time when we are at a high point it is unusual for us to consider things becoming otherwise. But when that happens we are shocked and don’t know what to do.

I notice that the universe can be very strange sometimes. People at similar points in their lives can be polarized together like metallic objects attracted by a magnetic field. I notice that whenever you are going through something, some kind of hardship, pain, difficult situation. Somehow there are always one or two people who are going through a difficult situation in the same time as you do. As bonus you find that there are people who have gone through that and are life’s weird ways of lending you advice to deal with your situation.

I happen to know that at my age my peers, including myself, are going through a stage of progress vacuum. This is a stage which I define as a lack of progress, most particularly in one’s career.  This state of progress vacuum manifests itself to financial disadvantages and sends a person to a difficult emotional state. This state may come and go. You can manage it at once but it tends to come back and find you every now and again in your life. This vacuum cannot be restricted to the aspects of life which I have mentioned. It can also be experienced by an individual when it comes to relationships. 

In my experience of this I have noticed that one is never alone. The mistake that we do in dealing with this is to focus on ourselves, close our eyes and ears and not realise that there are people around us who are dealing with similar situations or have dealt with these situation.

While I cannot be able to provide solutions that you think you need right now I can tell you that you are not alone. I am also in that state I’m going through something similar myself. Perhaps the difference between you and me is that I have taken a stand to craft ways to deal with my situation, pardon me if you have done so yourself. My solutions are not perfect and don’t always work. I think for me I have reached that resistance threshold where I have decided that I don’t want to experience it again.

In the past year I have been fortunate in a strange way. As I said earlier, that the universe can be funny sometimes. The universe can bring you life solutions in the form of people. I found myself among people whom we share similar pasts and backgrounds. I have met people like that before but what is significant about this is that we assist each other in finding ways to deal with our unique situations. We have been very supportive of each other’s moves and have admires each other’s attitudes and outlook at life.

Maybe there are two decisions you can make. Firstly, you can make a covenant with yourself that you will ensure that you do not find yourself in a similar situation again. Secondly, you can take comfort in knowing that you are not alone, you can learn from others and believe that things will change for the better. Patience is also important as the saying goes that “Good things come to those who wait”.